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The Other Mitford Girl

The Mitfords continue to fascinate us, thanks to the witty novels, biographies and letters they wrote, their political involvement on both left and right, and their brush with world history. Rarely a year goes by without another Mitford documentary, film or television series, a volume of letters or a biography. In our latest podcast our emphasis moves from the girls to their mother – matriarch of one of the most outrageous, controversial, influential, glamorous and intriguing families of the twentieth century.

Sydney Redesdale (née Bowles), known by her family as ‘Muv’, was never going to have a conventional life. Her mother died when she was 7, and from the age of 14 she ran her father’s house. She fell in love with David Mitford (later Lord Redesdale) as a teenager and they married in 1904. Of their seven children, Nancy, Pamela, Tom, Diana, Jessica, Unity and Debo, two became bestselling authors, one was imprisoned and two lost their lives as a result of the Second World War, and their political views ranged from fascism to communism.

Sydney was the original Mitford girl, from whom much of her daughters’ legendary strong will, self-confidence and extremism was born. Nancy’s satires of aristocratic life between the wars, The Pursuit of Love and Love in a Cold Climate, portray Sydney as Aunt Sadie, vague and rather disconnected, but in fact Sydney was a divisive character and her daughters squabbled about the nature of the ‘real Muv’ for even longer than they argued about their own political differences.

Our guests on this podcast are two modern Mitfordians, Rachel Trethewey, biographer,  historian and author of Muv: The Story of the Mitford Girls’ Mother, and Frances Donnelly, broadcaster, writer and contributor to Slightly Foxed. Alongside discussion of Sydney and the difficulties of writing about someone with whom you disagree and find hard to like at times, the guests and our editors choose their favourite Mitford titles.

Summer reading recommendations include R. C. Sheriff’s The Fortnight in September and Anne Tyler’s Three Days in June.

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Show Notes

Books Mentioned

Please find links to books, articles, and further reading listed below. We may be able to get hold of second-hand copies of the out-of-print titles mentioned on the podcast and listed below. Please get in touch with the Slightly Foxed office for more information. The digits in brackets following each listing refer to the minute and second they are mentioned. (Episode duration: minutes; seconds)

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Rachel Trethewey, MUV (1:19)

Slightly Foxed Issue 91 (3:53)

Charles ‘Chic’ Sale, The Specialist (4:50)

George Eliot, Scenes from a Clerical Life (5:22)

Jessica Mitford, Hons and Rebels (7:22)

Deborah Mitford, Duchess of Devonshire, Counting My Chickens (7:35)

Nancy Mitford, The Pursuit of Love (9:17)

Nancy Mitford, Love in a Cold Climate (9:19)

Lady Sydney Redesdale, Five House (16:02)

Thomas Hardy, Tess of the D’Urbevilles (19:24)

Nancy Mitford, Don’t Tell Alfred (38:16)

Nancy Mitford, The Blessing (38:57)

Jessica Mitford, The American Way of Death Revisited (45:29)

Mary S. Lovell, The Mitford Girls (47:11)

James Lees-Milne, Ancestral Voices (47:20)

Ed. Charlotte Mosley, The Mitfords: Letters Between Six Sisters (47:25)

Carla Kaplan, Troublemaker (47:38)

R. C. Sherriff, No Leading Lady Volume I & Volume II (50:49)

R. C. Sherriff, A Fortnight in September (50:57)

Anne Tyler, Three Days in June (52:30)

Anne Tyler, Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant (53:36)

 

Related Slightly Foxed Articles

The Paris Effect, Laura Freeman on Nancy Mitford’s Parisian Novels, Issue 61

Iced Tea and Hospitality, Marie E. Wicks on Jan Karon, The Mitford Years, Issue 34

Honourable Rebel, Daisy Hay on Jessica Mitford, Hons & Rebels, Issue 41

Shrieks and Floods, Michele Hanson on The Pursuit of LoveLove in a Cold Climate, Issue 20

  • The Paris Effect | From the Slightly Foxed archives
    22 July 2022

    The Paris Effect | From the Slightly Foxed archives

    ‘They are carried away by the beauty of the city, coffee on the breeze, chocolate profiteroles on Sèvres plates . . .’ Laura Freeman wrote about the heroines of Nancy Mitford’s Parisian novels in Slightly Foxed Issue 61, and we return to this article with great pleasure as coffee brews in the Hoxton Square office and we’re carried away to France ‘by some Mitford miracle’.
  • Iced Tea and Hospitality
    1 June 2012

    Iced Tea and Hospitality

    At certain times in my life, I have opened a book and discovered a friend. I have chuckled with Anne Shirley over her comical escapades in the quiet town of Avonlea. I have stood under the watchful eye of Aunt Polly and scolded Tom Sawyer for skipping school, only to shrug and offer to whitewash the fence for him once her back was turned. Once I even considered inviting Jo March to dinner, though this idea was quickly dismissed, for I felt quite certain that Jo would go nowhere without her three sisters in tow and before I knew it the entire March clan would show up at my door, for which I had neither the time nor the energy. At this thought I poured myself a cup of tea, took Little Women down from the bookshelf, and visited Jo at her house instead.
  • Honourable Rebel
    1 March 2014

    Honourable Rebel

    Jessica Mitford found the act of sitting down to write formidably hard. ‘’Tis now 12:30 on the first day I was to really work all day on the book,’ she reported to her husband and daughter in May 1959. ‘As you can see, in spite of the good news I’m as bad as ever – ANYTHING to keep from it.’ The ‘good news’ was that after several attempts to place her book she had finally secured publishing deals in both Britain and the United States. The book in question was a memoir which she wanted at various points to call ‘Red Sheep’ and ‘Revolting Daughters’ but which is known today as Hons and Rebels.
  • Shrieks and Floods
    1 December 2008

    Shrieks and Floods

    It’s been hard to avoid the Mitfords recently. A collected edition of the letters of Jessica (‘Decca’) was published in 2006. The following year another collection, this time of the letters exchanged between all six sisters, appeared. And this autumn we’ve been treated to the correspondence between the youngest sister, Debo, now Dowager Duchess of Devonshire, and Sir Patrick Leigh Fermor.

Other Links

Slightly Foxed Readers’ Day 2026 (24 October)

The Barnsbury Book Festival

Slightly Foxed Writers’ Competition

Eland Books

Opening music: Preludio from Violin Partita No. 3 in E Major by Bach

Hosted by Rosie Goldsmith
Produced by Philippa Goodrich


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